Someone asked me today how I manage to continue to have so much love for life and such a positive attitude with all that I’ve been through. I wanted to share some of what I told them.
First, I don’t know ‘how’ to do it, I kind of just did it. A lot of it is about choosing. Life isn’t always easy or kind. People can be horrendous. Things happen that are traumatic and terrible. How we choose to move forward is up to us. I decided I wanted to live my life happy. I fully believe everything happens for a reason and in doing so what I really do is choose to put a reason on it.
For instance, we went to pick up the truck today and it broke down a mile from the garage. This means a possibility of no work camping in Missouri, however I haven’t given up hope. It means possibly being stuck in Florida for several more months (a place I have come to truly dislike). It means maybe not being able to save as much as I had gotten excited about saving if any at all. And worse it might mean giving up on my hopes of finishing my degree through UMS because I simply can’t afford it right now.
I was devastated most of the day. I cried. I became very depressed. And then I realized there is a reason. I cannot publicly share this reason that I have found, but I accept that the universe has greater plans for me than I often have for myself. These plans don’t always benefit me financially but they do spiritually, which is how I lead my life. So I’m accepting this.
That’s really the first step, acceptance. And now I will adjust to the new plan and do my best to work within it’s confines. It’s not easy but I can’t change it. So, if I want to be happy, I have to find a way to work with it instead of fight against it. That’s another aspect of this all, learning to go with the current and stop trying to swim upstream.
I don’t want to suffer so I choose not to. I avoid situations which make me do so. Now, that’s not to say that I don’t have moments of suffering. We all do. That’s life. I simply choose not to dwell within them.
Also remember that even in the toughest of times things can and will get better. Change is inevitable, suffering is truly optional. Right now you might be going through something extremely difficult, but it can and will improve with the right help and with time.
Maybe something is missing in your life. You pictured it to be one way and that has not happened. You envisioned it as a picture in your mind but your reality is not matching that picture. Change the picture. If you can’t change the picture in the world, change the one in your head to more closely match where you are. Find the purpose. Create a new dream. Make new choices. You can do many things that will bring you great rewards and joy if you allow them to and let yourself.
And in all of this writing I know that you don’t want to hear any of it. Right now you are in pain. So let me tell you that beyond any of this I give you 100% of my unconditional love and understanding. Life isn’t easy. Nobody promised us it would be.
As for me, I’m done living in spiritual and emotional pain. My body has plenty of that. I prefer to try to live in peace and harmony. I prefer to enjoy my days and do my best to do so. Life is a journey over many hills and valleys. Try to enjoy the scenery a bit and hold your nose when you hit a field of manure.
Remember you are unique and wonderful. Love yourself and allow others to love you. The special gifts that you brought into this world are yours alone and nobody can share them quite the way you can.
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